I recently came across an article written by Susan Merrill with the above thought in its title. The article contained some suggestions that I thought would be helpful to parents and I include the suggestions below with additional comments. I’m sure there are other suggestions that you feel would be beneficial. If so, I would appreciate your sharing them with me.
1. Look for a lady. She conducts herself in a very respectful manner. She dresses modestly and is kind and considerate of others.
2. Look for inner beauty. She emphasizes the development of her character and not just her outward appearance. The apostle Peter wrote, “Let not your adornment be merely external…but let it be the hidden person of the heart” (1 Pet. 3:3, 4).
3. Look for thoughtfulness. She remembers the small details you have shared with her. She is also observant of the needs and interests of others.
4. Look for respect. If she doesn’t show respect for her parents, it is unlikely she will have respect for her husband either. Paul said, “Let the wife see to it that she respect her husband” (Eph. 5:33).
5. Look for gentleness. The Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome, but gentle toward all (1 Tim. 2:24-25). Such a disposition is a needed quality for every mother as she patiently trains the children.
6. Look for selflessness. She is not focused on herself, but is compassionate in her response to the needs of others.
7. Look for joy. Her happiness comes from a right relationship with God and does not depend on her circumstances.
8. Look for faith. This is the most important of all. If she genuinely loves the Lord more than anyone or anything else, all these other traits will come naturally